Savi Sez

Knapps relational development model is shown as a ten step process broken into two parts.  It also suggests that these ten steps should be done all at once, in order, to make sure they are done correctly and will be effective.  As i was looking at and reading about Kapps model I took the steps and put them into my own life with a romantic relationship that just ended. Online communication has ruined a lot my friends relationships and I didn't think much of it until it happened to me and made me realize that communicating online is all we really know how to do.  Talking in person or meeting up to hang out is the old thing to do and texting or calling or emailing is the new normal.  Everyone saves the 'coming together' part of Knapps model for the first couple times you meet someone and try and show you care then once you hit 'relational maintenance' people stop trying and rely on texting and online communication because its easier and takes less effort.  Once ...

The three articles i read dealt with the varying degrees of self disclosure and the different stages of interpersonal relationships.  In healthy interpersonal relationships self disclosure is normally one of the more intimate and final stages of building the relationship.  Self disclosure is normally reciprocated between two or more people involved in an interpersonal relationship and negative self disclosure comes later.  Online relationships however have allowed people to zip past the building of a relationship and go straight to self disclosure.  In my opinion we share too much random information online under the guise of intimate friendships.  On page 157 Alex Lambert wonder if friendships can only be private intimacies or a public community with nothing in between.  What I see on Facebook is mostly public community and very little private intimacies.  On page 155 Sherry Turkle talks about how Facebook provides "a kind of false mastery, as it ne...

Pretty much this whole article, Negative Social Comparison on Facebook and Depressive Symptoms: Rumination as a Mechanism, by Brian A. Feinstein is about how we spend too much time on social media sites looking at other peoples lives and bodies and what they are doing every minute of every day and then portraying all those thoughts onto ourselves and comparing our situation to theirs.  Facebook, and many other social media sites, give you many opportunities to cause you to look down on yourself and think negative things about yourself that could potentially lead to depression, but it also have many factors that can boost your self esteem and have you thinking positive thought. At one point in the article they bring up how Facebook might lower your self-esteem or raise.  If someone saw a friend getting married, a friend who has the most friends or a friend who got a good job they will tend to look down on themselves and compare themselves to that person which can lead to neg...